Happiness and Joy

Last year I met the love of my life. It was totally unexpected. I had decided that after my previous disastrous relationship it would be good to take some time to heal. Because of the nature of the break up I changed churches which had this not happened I would never have met my husband! In the past year we have had many happy times together! But what I would tell you is that there is a definite difference between happiness and joy.

Happiness came in the form of the happenings in my life. What I lacked was true joy. I never expected my husband to give me joy as I already knew that only came from Jesus Christ. However, even then I felt that I didn’t have that joy I was sure we were promised.

I think my anger towards God came in the form that things were definitely not ok and I had no joy or peace in any situation. I can tell you this is where I needed to battle with God. My inability to completely give over my burdens to Him was evident and Him not giving me the strength to bear them was a sore point. I realise I was approaching this from all the wrong angles. So in my ‘battle with God’ I wrote a letter of everything I was hurting about, things I didn’t understand, and fears I had about what it would mean. In each situation my level of control was zero! What I was forced to recognise was that I had to release my inability to do anything to the only person who did have ability. Since then I have been letting go of each burden I have been carrying. I still act on what I believe God calls me to say or do in each situation but I have let go of the outcomes.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.

And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.”
Philippians 4:6-9

On top of letting go of things, there is also a part for us to play. Our thoughts need to be brought under control by thinking upon things that are true, honourable, pure, lovely, commendable, excellent, and worthy of praise. Not only that but we are called to practice the things which we have learned, received, heard, and seen and the God of peace will be with us.

While I can’t control many situations, I can look for what I can do where I am with what I have.

Courtesy of BehaviorGap.com

Courtesy of BehaviorGap.com


A Time for a New Beginning?

Beginnings are fresh in my mind as I prepare to get married in less than two months! Beginning together as a married couple is a huge change for both of us. As much as we prepare for the wedding day and spending the rest of our lives together, we really have no way of knowing what is coming our way. We don’t know what trials will hit us, where we will be, or how we are going to survive in an ever changing economy. Nevertheless, uncertainty should not stop us from embarking on what could potentially be one of our greatest adventures.

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.”
Ecclesiastes 3:1-2 KJV

Focusing on Ecclesiastes 3 and on the concept of time, we are reminded that there is a time set out for everything we do as well as for the purpose it was intended.


We couldn’t really talk about beginnings without mentioning the first beginning. I’m talking about Genesis 1:1 “In the beginning God created…”  Out of the vastness of nothingness God created a whole universe to explore! From the beginning of the creation of mankind, our purpose was predestined. That purpose was to have a relationship with the Almighty God. In Genesis 3, we see that it was normal for God to come down and walk with Adam and Eve. There are so many times I crave to have that kind of relationship with God! Can you imagine what that must have been like? Of course, we also see in Genesis 3 the reason we are separated from God.

Being separated from God doesn’t mean He is ever far away.  While we can’t enjoy seeing Him or touching Him, we can be assured of His presence around us.

“Where shall I go from your Spirit? Or where shall I flee from your presence? If I ascend to heaven, you are there! If I make my bed in Sheol, you are there! If I take the wings of the morning and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea, even there your hand shall lead me, and your right hand shall hold me.”
Psalm 139:7-10 ESV

Psalm 139 is our reassurance of His presence from the very beginning of our life when He formed us (verses 13-14) to the present where He continues to work in our lives. Not only did He create us individually but He also had a purpose for each of us individually. This is why we will never be like anyone else despite our best efforts! And it also explains why it is so exhausting trying to “fit in”.

To become more like Christ and to enjoy being in His presence should be the ultimate purpose in our journey. A willing heart is the most important part of our relationship with God. It is important because God will ask for some very difficult things from us which will require a heart in full obedience to Him.  In these difficult (and often crazy!) times, we can be assured that the end is for a greater purpose than we can ever imagine.

Christ, as our anchor, provides safety and assurance that we will never be swept away in the storms that constantly come our way!

“Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you. For I am the Lord your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Saviour.”
Isaiah 43:1b-3a ESV